I was spring cleaning of my files and came across something I wrote a while ago that made me chuckle. Life has a way of ebbing and flowing; and so long as we keep moving in a forward direction we can make miracles happen.
This goes way back to when my life splattered and shattered. I was a family therapist with then teen age daughters. I was in the process of a divorce that made it clear I better go into another field. If I couldn’t keep my own marriage together what right did I have to help other people with their problems?
Here is the rest of what I wrote: Humpty came apart. Same with me. It took an extreme makeover to pull my life together and redefine success.
I had been in a partnership with an internationally known man the field of human development. Our organization had been a hub of activity. Success American Style included a handsome husband, bright, beautiful daughters, home with gorgeous trees and a huge pool.
Then came the week that changed it all.
The doctor’s call was first. My mother’s tests were back and the cancer was terminal. Same day my husband left. By week’s end the final insult came. My famous partner had excluded me as a presenter for our major conference. Intentional? Unintentional? His response was “No big deal, you and I would say the same things and we don’t want to be redundant now do we? He suggested I introduce him for the keynote. That way I would at least be “seen”.”
That was it! One too many times of being the pleaser, the martyr, and yea gads, the victim! I was outta there!
The next months I spent treading water in a vast ocean of despair. It was exhausting, yet, paradoxically invigorating. No longer was I stagnant; festering in old patterns. I soon felt myself swimming into new territory.
Fast forward to now. My present company Creative Energy Options (CEOinc) was born from the ashes of my old life. The mission is to transform workplace relationships and offer those in leadership positions tools and tips I wish I had those many years ago.
I’m married to my now business partner and we make sure we are clear with each other even if it gets noisy. There is a lot to be grateful for and even that awful time is now remembered with appreciation.
I don’t know how Humpty is, but I’m doing great!
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Wow…what an experience to write about. Definitely no longer Humpty!! I’m sorry to hear about your mother, but sounds like you are loving life again. Motivation is what starts actions. Stay motivated and thank you for this.
Haha funny article Sylvia
Congratulations to where you are now and seems like you ARE doing great. Thinking positive in life and knowing what you love to do, will just bring happiness. Thank you for this story and I know I’m doing better than Humpty too!
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