Resolutions so often turn to dust as old, deeply ingrained patterns fight for center stage. Think about all the changes you want to make as this New Year turns two days old.
Have you even kept you resolutions through the first day of the month?
Here is what I teach and help those who go through our Total Leadership Connections program understand: when stress is high we all tend to retreat back to behaviors that were there to protect us when we were kids. The patterns of over-pleasing, avoiding, behaving like a big, bad bully started long ago; when we feel threated or blamed there they are playing their role of protector…..whether we like it or not.
Our leadership development program tackles this issue and gives insight into those dark corners when you (all of us) flip out without any spam filters.
Here are some tips when you “fall off the wagon” of resolutions:
KEEP LOVING YOURSELF THROUGH THE PROCESS. And, HAPPY NEW YOU IN THIS NEW YEAR!!!!!
There is some interesting research that suggests talking about your goals can be counter-productive because it makes you feel like you have already accomplished them, or that “just the intent” was good enough. Here’s a link that talks about this:
I can see this in myself sometimes, and other times I want to talk about my goals because I need help and support! I was successful last year in a couple of areas and one of the things I did was keep it to myself until i really felt personally committed.