Are you tired from all the bully boss blogs? Tired of all the negativity and “gotcha game” complaints that go from co-worker to co-worker? Do you play in the CYA arena and get stocked with all the gossip at work?

The month of December is the most gossipy month of the year. Office parties often lead to smirky comments about partners, clothes, and crappy surprise gifts (the ones that no one is to spend more than $5.00 on).

Here is the antidote to the ugly side of the holiday stress. It is simple and yet not easy to do: BE KIND.

In the journal “Evolution and Behavior” there is a great study.  (Do we really need a study for what I am about to say?) Kind people are actually perceived as better looking than those who are rude – and it has nothing to do with perfect facial features.

Biologist David Sloan Wilson, PhD states that altruism is seen as an important trait and we are genetically programmed to see helpful and kind people as more appealing.

Not sure how to show kindness? Here are a few ideas:

1. Tell someone you like the tie, earrings, or coat they are wearing. We all like to be acknowledged for our appearance.
2. Call or email someone and let them know you like the way they spoke up in a meeting, or the great concepts in the latest report. We all want someone to give us a high-five for skill.
3. Send a card or candy (dark chocolate is really a great gift) and let someone know you are glad they are part of your life.
4. Same as above however, do so to someone you do not know very well. Take a risk and just appreciate the fact that your paths have crossed.
5. If all else fails, pay the toll or buy a cup of coffee for the person behind you in line. It really is a pattern interrupt and gives a good feeling to surprise someone you do not even know.

Happy holidays and happy kindness. It won’t take the stress out of the month of December. It will however, sweeten the days.