On the Cutting Edge of Change

Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?

Knowledge of human relationships no longer belongs only to the psychology crowd. It belongs to all of us. Every leader or emerging leader in today’s workplace needs to look below the surface and answer the age old question when someone shoots himself in the foot “Why did he just do what he did?” We need.. read more →

Leadership, Violence, and Vigilance: Ray Rice, Roger Goodell, and the NFL

Remember where you were on September 11, 2001? Now, 13 years later can you answer this question: how did it change the way you see the world? For many it activated fear to a new level, for others the desire to crush the enemy, whoever they are. For some, it was the beginning of thinking about.. read more →

Are Men Happier People?

I have been preparing for my GUTSY WOMEN Google Hangout that will take place on Thursday September 11th. One area that so many of you have asked me to cover is how men and women differ and who is really happier. My conclusion is that yes, in some aspects, men truly are happier. And I.. read more →

Leadership, Power, Violence, and Conflict Resolution

Watching the scenes from Ferguson Missouri is about so much more than police brutality vs. the right to demonstrate in a public forum. It is about unresolved issues in our country that are as old as the first slave ship that came ashore so many years ago. We cannot just look at the shooting of a young.. read more →

Pattern Interruption in the Workplace

So you are frustrated with your direct reports. You can’t seem to get to the bottom of their gossiping and slacking off at work. You have talked to each one separately and no one is willing to say what is really going on. Pattern Interrupt is the way to go. Normally you call together a team and ask “what.. read more →

Want to Find a Better Solution to Handle Conflict?

Conflict–what’s your initial reaction? Want to find a better solution to handling any conflict? Explore how to find your way OUT of blaming, unnecessary drama, or running for the hills by following these practical guidelines. Quickly answer this question: “When faced with conflict, any conflict, what is the first thought you have?” Is it, “Not.. read more →

How to Create Inclusion When Inspiring Change

Did you ever surprise someone with what you thought was a great gift only to get an icy stare and a raspy “thank you?” If you asked why there was upset, did you get a canned reply like “not upset, it’s really fine?” And did you ever wonder if the gift was ever used or put in.. read more →

How to Let Go of The Past to Free the Present

One of my coaching clients, Steve, recently got a much wanted promotion. He was so beyond excited he felt like he was walking on air, for, oh for about a week. Then he called and said “What did I do.” Actually he used much more colorful language than that. He had gotten onto the most kick-ass team.. read more →

How to Establish a Workplace Culture That is Comfortable with Addressing Conflict

Conflict is an everyday occurrence in most organizations. And guess what?  It usually gets passed to Human Resources to “handle the problem and fix it.” Most strategies are the quick fix, not the long-term change to really understand how to work through conflict and get to innovation. To reduce conflict and increase competitiveness, companies need to understand systems thinking and truly.. read more →

Can Conflict Really Be Good for the Workplace?

Why do so many of us cringe in the face of conflict? It’s because the little kid part of us that looked up at those giants in our world (that means any adult) and knew they were big and we were small, and they would win and we would lose when it came to decision making, makes.. read more →